Advice

Dear Just another Woman in Love,

Falling in love was a tough situation for me. I was very focus with my work and daughter. I had lost my time for myself and other kinds of happiness. My mom came up to me and said when my daughter grows up she will have a life of her own and I must not expect her to be with me all the time. She is implying that I should also get out and have fun with friends and find a love life too. I didn’t take it seriously and just went out with my friends from time to time. My former love life was all about heartbreak. So, I have bear that in mind that I won’t hurry back in to it or flirt to get a guy to like me.

I was sarcastic about love and whenever a guy shows something to impress me. I ignore it. I didn’t totally close the doors for my love life. I just didn’t prioritize it until a stranger came along. He was very different. Unlike other suitors he was not into impressing me. He was just being himself all the time that we we’re together. He made me forget about the heartbreak I felt before. He was able to melt my frozen heart.  Many was teasing me that when he came a long I sounded so in love and happy compared before. Why wouldn’t I? He was a perfect prince.

Our personality was very compatible for we both have kids and we understand the situation perfectly. We planned to get married after 2 years of being together. The fear of heartbreak was totally out of my system. All the right ingredients in a relationship were all present. Undeniably, I became strict with him hence he is very attractive and has a great sense of humor which many girls like. Jealousy was built hence I am not that good looking. Somehow, I know what my faults are and were trying to change it so we won’t have any problems with our future married life.

Months before we formally announce our engagement I notice something wrong about him. He was not listening to me that much and doesn’t care anymore. Maybe he was feed up with me for all my doubts. I gave him space for many say that absence makes the heart fonder and went to a business vacation with my daughter. The vacation lasted for 4 months. The communication between us was a routine but my instinct is building the fear of heartbreak again. He still says I love you but I can’t feel it anymore. I wanted to go home soon to see him and I did. But he was with someone else already and they have been dating for almost a year before I knew it. His reaction was a totally an “I don’t care thing” when he saw me.

The most painful part in a relationship is the heartbreak. I had my faults but that didn’t mean that he should replace me and I was trying to change it for us. Still, I love him but I won’t beg for him to come back. If you love someone you stay even in the worst moments. A harmonious relationship is made up of two people not three. He wasn’t the guy for me after all and I am still waiting for the right one who can make me fall in love again.

Hopefully, a guy that can offer me the love that would last for a lifetime.

Respectfully,

Michelle


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